"I've
read so many posts in the past, and even some today that spoke
on how our children we lost to adoption have regressed
or STOPPED emotionally growing up around the age of 16 -- my bdaughter
included -- and it just occurred to me at how very sad that
truthful statement really is. My heart is heavy for all
of our lost children and for those we are unaware of that are
out there. I feel somewhat depressed as I think of our children
and what they went through and are going through all in the name
of adoption. I know that we cannot change the past--but
I also know that our children need to hear from us that we love
them and want them in our lives.
"I
was one of those naive 16 year olds that believed that a two-parent
family was the best for my daughter, and that I could go on with
my life, get married, have other children, and my relinquished
daughter would be given all the best opportunities needed to grow
up to be a successful person. All to learn at reunion that
it was the biggest mistake of my life -- even though I've come
to terms with this and have really found peace, I know the
truth about adoption - and it sucks.
"My
heart aches for my daughter and I know all first-mothers do the
same for their children, too. I know I can't make up for
the pain she went through."
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